Updated: Sep 12, 2022
I’ve learned some things do not belong to me. Once I recognize attitudes, thoughts, narratives, and opinions that do not belong to me, I do my best to release them. I frequently consider the source, discerning whether I should expend any additional energy or time. I refuse to allow anything or anyone to live rent free in my mind.
Sometimes it is hard to release because you’re committed to a person and their wellbeing, even sometimes to your own detriment. Sometimes you’re scared to release because you’re not sure what that might look and feel like after you do so. Sometimes you’re carrying false senses of guilt and shame, and that makes it hard to release. Sometimes you’re taking on a feigned obligatory responsibility because you want to be reciprocal of care and kindness previously shown to you. Sometimes you’re attempting to live and do according to societal, familial, and religious expectations.
You’ll have to determine what is you and what are others. You’ll need to discern what you are holding onto and if indeed it needs to be released.
You’ll establish your own beliefs, standards, and values, and do your best to live according to them.
You’ll learn that it’s better to find out who you are, what motivates you, and what you really want to do rather than holding onto someone else’s definition or interpretation of you. That it’s better to live your life and not based on demands or unrealistic expectations of others. You’ll learn that it’s better to release anything not of you rather than allowing it to weigh you down.